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Innocent Muslim girls are falling for the glib talk by boys, in the process ruining their college studies. This is making Muslim parents apprehensive about enrolling their daughters in co-education institutions.
• Zulekha Ayub 19, wanted to complete her graduation in Psychology, but her father forced her to cancel her admission in the second year. The reason… SMS messages and phone calls from her male classmates.
• Saba Khan 21, could not continue her Management studies, as her parents persuaded her to drop the idea after she was caught having an affair with her classmate.
• Aziza Naik, 19, is virtually confined to her house, as her mother came across a romantic email in her name sent by one of her classmates.
When it comes to higher education for Muslim girls, many parents are apprehensive to enroll their daughters in co-education institutions. What are the alternatives? Stop the education? Round the clock policing? Leave everything to fate?
No, these are not the solutions. The solution is that Muslim parents should educate their daughters about the threat faced by them in the college. The fathers in particular should educate their daughters about the male psychology. They can take the help of their wives.
Many a times, innocent girls fall for the glib talk by the boys. Girls must be educated that most of the time the expression of love is nothing but the pretext for exploiting the girl sexually.
Numerous researches have revealed that man is after sex and woman is after love. Man is overpowered by his sexual urge, whereas a woman, according to the psychologists, has a greater capacity of controlling and concealing her desires. It is the melody of love, sincerity and faithfulness which subdues a woman and brings her to her knees. That is what men exploit by their glib talk.
As long as the woman is a maiden and has had no experience of men, she can easily be lured by his love songs. Professor Reek, the American psychologist, says that, the best sentence which a man can say to a woman is ‘Darling, I love you’. He says that good luck for a woman means to be able to win the heart of a man and to retain it for the rest of her life.
If a man expresses his love to a woman, she never forgets that. The men who are after enticing a woman, fully exploit this womanly feeling. The words, ‘I am dying for you’ is the best lure for enticing girls who have had no experience of men.
That is why it is essential that a girl, who has had no experience of men, should consult her parents immediately if any male confesses his love for her. If the boy is really serious about the proposal, the parents must be involved to find out whether the boy is willing to commit for marriage.
Often, Muslim parents are unable to guide their daughters about the male psychology as they themselves are unaware about the differences between male and female psychology. Educating the girl about the male psychology is very essential so that they do not fall prey to male advances.
An American psychologist, Professor Reek has published in a voluminous book the result of his researches into the affairs of man and woman. He says: “The world of man is totally different from that of a woman. If women cannot think or act like men, it is because they belong to two different worlds.”
Professor Reek compares the spirit of man with that of a woman and discovers many of their dissimilarities. He says: “It is boring for a man to have to live always with the woman he likes. But nothing is more pleasant to a woman than to be near the man she loves.
According to him, the best sentence that a man can address to a woman is: ‘My dear, I love you’. The most beautiful sentence, which a woman says to a man of her choice, is: ‘I am proud of you’. A man always wants to convert the woman of his choice to his own religion and nationality. For a woman it is as easy to change her religion and nationality for the sake of the man she likes, just like she changes her surname following the marriage.
Islam has enjoined hijab for the women to protect them from this very nature of men. The contribution of women for the peace, growth and maintenance of the social balance is beyond any doubt. Who can forget the contribution of Hazrath Khadija (RA), first in reposing complete faith in Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh) and then acting as an emotional anchor for him. Can we imagine the compilation of Hadith without the contribution of Hazrath Aishah (RA).
A woman has had much influence over man. Her influence over man has been greater than man’s influence over her. Man is indebted to woman and to her chastity and charming modesty for his many achievements of art and feats of bravery. The credit for the building of many a personality and the developing of many a genius goes to her. If a woman loses her qualities of chastity, modesty and restraint, and falls for the glib talk of man, first she may be debased, then man may lose his manhood, and in the end the society may be ruined.
It is the responsibility of the Muslim parents to first take their daughters into confidence by showering them with all the love and affection and then educate them as to why Islam has enjoined segregation of men and women.
(The writer can be reached at mhl@rediffmail.com)
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